Friday, July 13, 2018

Blog Post 113 - My Gift to a friend's daughter - 4 ideas



Here are the 4 Ideas that I consider part of my worldly wisdom collection

1.Always give - Not take                                                                                                                             Give opportunity to people
                          Give  money
                          Give time
                          Give Ideas/Suggestions


2.Do - not Talk about ideas . Commit and do .

3.Live and die alone - Do what you should!!!

4.Always remember the proverb - ‘this too shall pass’




Principle 1 - Always Give not take. Adam Grant wrote a book recently Give and Take

Are you a giver or taker ?
We always like to take - Is that true?Given an opportunity always look for what you can give. It makes you feel good . It makes you feel you have 'More'.

Most people need a gratitude log and practice writing 3 things they are thankful for in the book - after dinner or before you go to 'bed' .





Most people need a gratitude log and practice writing 3 things they are thankful for in the book - after dinner or before you go to 'bed' .

You can always give a small gift - atleast your time and your human labor - help a friend move,offer to take care of their kid...do something with your body and mind (if you dont have money to give )

Kids - you can also give opportunities - give adults an opportunity to teach you,Adults - give opportunities to teach you - yes I mean it!!



  1. Do - not Talk about ideas . Commit and do .

Ideas are easy to create difficult to execute. It is very easy to commit and do 1 thing at a time. It also start with commitment. First commit. Then do. Don't talk!!!

Everyone generates ideas as fast as they can breathe- How many breaths do you take per day?

(From http://www.heraldtribune.com/article/LK/20100112/News/605199447/SH/)

In average, a person at rest takes about 16 breaths per minute. This means we breathe about 960 breaths an hour, 23,040 breaths a day, 8,409,600 a year. Unless we get a lot of exercise. The person who lives to 80 will take about 672,768,000 breaths in a lifetime


  1. Live and die alone - Do what you should!!!

You can alone. You came to do certain thing.Wake up and question why you exist!! Yes and I mean it. Family is good . Society is great but you are not Family or Society. You are you.. Be you.


Story from Valmiki answers the deeper meaning (From https://kids.baps.org/storytime/valmikirishi.htm)..Understand Valmiki is not a bad guy..He wrote one of the greatest epics - Ramayana - by understanding you are not part of family - you are important to your family but you are you.
During Treta Yug, a time thousands of years ago, a man named Ratnakar lived in the forests along the banks of the holy river Ganga. Ratnakar was a cruel hunter and a fearless thief. Everyone was afraid of Ratnakar! When he walked in the forest, even the birds would fly to their nests, and the animals would look for a place to hide. 
One day, Ratnakar was hiding by the side of a forest pathway, waiting for a victim. Along came the great sage Naradji, who was walking peacefully, admiring the beauty of the forest and singing kirtans in praise of God. 
Ratnakar jumped out in front of him and demanded, "Hand over all you have or else!"
With love flowing from his eyes, Naradji said smilingly, "My dear man, all that I have are these rags I wear. If you want them, you may take them!"  Naradji's fearlessness surprised Ratnakar. As Ratnakar gazed in Naradji's eyes, his cruel mind melted.
Naradji saw this transformation and lovingly explained to Ratnakar how stealing and killing animals was very sinful. He reminded Ratnakar that although his family was eager to share the fruits of his bad actions, they would not share his sins.
   Upon this realisation, Ratnakar fell to Naradji's feet and asked for forgiveness.  Naradji taught him to recite the sacred name of Ram. Ratnakar sat down in the forest and continued chanting with closed eyes. His concentration was so deep that he remained in meditation for years.  In fact, he sat there so long in meditation that an anthill grew all around and above him! 
One day Naradji came that way and carefully cleared away the anthill. With a kind smile, Naradji declared Ratnakar a sage, "As you are now reborn from a 'Val-mika' (ant-hill), from now you'll be known as Valmiki."
With tears of joy in his eyes, the sage Valmiki began his new life. He built an ashram near the river Ganga that provided refuge to Sitaji, wife of Shri Bhagwan  Ram.  It was at this ashram that Valmiki rishi composed the Ramayan!


  1. Always remember the proverb - ‘this too shall pass’
Things sometimes are great. Sometimes times are tough. We all need to be 'observers'

Life is not constant - we know that. Good things happen.Bad things happen.

From Wikipedia
Its origin has been traced to the works of Persian Sufi poets, such as Sanai and Attar of Nishapur.[3] Attar records the fable of a powerful king who asks assembled wise men to create a ring that will make him happy when he is sad. After deliberation the sages hand him a simple ring with the words "This too will pass" etched on it, which has the desired effect to make him happy when he is sad. It also, however, became a curse for whenever he is happy.


Give ,Do,Alone,Transient - that is the core Message I have gathered so far in my life

Keep learning
Siva